Non-recent childhood sexual abuse (CSA) refers to incidents of sexual abuse that occurred in the past. Those who have suffered CSA often do not disclose this until years or even decades after the events. While the primary focus is rightly on the victim/survivor, it is important to acknowledge that the repercussions of such abuse often extend beyond the individual, profoundly affecting the wider family unit. This post explores the impact of historical CSA on families.
When non-recent CSA is disclosed, family members frequently experience shock, disbelief, and confusion. The disclosure may challenge their perceptions of the abuser, particularly if the perpetrator is a trusted family member or close acquaintance. This can lead to denial or minimisation, further complicating the survivor’s path to healing.
Parents and guardians may experience intense feelings of guilt and self-blame, questioning how the abuse could have occurred without their knowledge or intervention. Siblings may also feel guilt, either for not recognising the signs or for not being subjected to the same abuse.
Family members often experience anger—directed at the perpetrator, at themselves, or at other relatives who may have failed to protect the survivor. Feelings of betrayal can be particularly acute when the abuser is a family member, leading to fractured relationships and long-term estrangement.
The disclosure of non-recent CSA can lead to significant family conflict and division, with some members supporting the survivor and others defending the accused. This can result in family breakdown, with communication ceasing between certain members or entire branches of the family.
Parents who have suffered abuse or learn of historical abuse may become overprotective or anxious in their parenting style, affecting their relationships with their children. The trauma may also influence their ability to trust others, including partners, friends, and institutions.
The trauma associated with CSA can have significant consequences on a victim’s mental health. Survivors and their families may struggle with mental health issues, substance misuse, or difficulties in forming healthy relationships.
The disclosure of non-recent CSA often necessitates engagement with law enforcement, social services, and the legal system. This process can be re-traumatising for the survivor and stressful for the family, particularly if the accused is a relative.
Families may experience stigma and social isolation following disclosure, especially in close-knit communities. The fear of judgment or gossip can discourage open discussion and support-seeking, exacerbating the emotional toll.
It is essential for families affected by historical CSA to access appropriate support services, including counselling, support groups, and legal guidance. These resources can assist in processing complex emotions, rebuilding trust, and navigating the legal process.
Encouraging open, non-judgmental communication within the family can help mitigate some of the relational damage caused by the disclosure. Family therapy may be beneficial in facilitating these conversations.
The impact of historical child sexual abuse extends far beyond the individual survivor, affecting the emotional, psychological, and relational wellbeing of the entire family. Recognising and addressing these wider effects is essential in supporting both survivors and their families on the path to recovery and justice.
Emmott Snell Solicitors have assisted a significant number of victims over many years in civil compensation claims. During this process, we have met and got to know many of our clients’ family members. We at Emmott Snell Solicitors never underestimate the impact of CSA on the wider family.
Mrs X’s husband was sexually abused as a child by someone in a position of trust and authority. For many years, Mrs X sensed something was wrong with her husband. He suffered from anger issues and struggled to let anyone get close to him. Her husband’s issues impacted their marriage. It got to a point where Mrs X decided that her husband’s issues would have to be addressed, or she would have to leave the marriage. It was not until their children were adults that Mrs X’s husband broke down and told her that he had been sexually abused as a child.
Mrs X had always sensed something was wrong, but she felt unable to ask him directly. Whilst her husband’s disclosure helped their relationship, and they found help, he has continued to struggle with his memories and mental health issues. Mrs X understands why her husband struggled to get close to people, including their children. Mrs X’s husband reported the abuse he suffered as a child to the police and pursued a civil compensation claim. Mrs X acknowledges that the civil compensation claims process has been difficult but has been a huge help as her husband finally feels believed.
We thank Mrs X for being willing to share insight into the often unrecognised impact of childhood sexual abuse on those “nearest and dearest” to the survivor.
If you or your family have been affected by childhood sexual abuse and would like advice or support, please do not hesitate to contact us. Our experienced team is here to help.